Your Dream Life Is Like A Puzzle
The picture on the box cover is beautiful, vivid, inspiring and filled with depth. More majestic than you pictured it would be. Perfect in every way and exactly what you have been looking for. You are excited. The feeling of accomplishment for getting exactly what you were dreaming of finding is filling you with overwhelming joy.
You examine the box closer and study the picture, you turn it over, looking at every inch, every detail. In the lower right corner of the box in big bold print you see 25,000 pieces. Immediately your emotions change to the thought of all those tiny pieces and how long it will take to put it together and make it complete. Again your focus goes to the picture on the box and deep inside you know it might take some time and you may need help but you are confident this is what you want.
That picture on the puzzle box is your hearts true desires, all your wishes, wants, and dreams, clearly and vividly laid out for you. You see the perfect house placed intentionally right where you have always wanted it to be. You see your dream car, your loving family, your caring friends, your perfect life - exactly the way you always wanted it to be.
Your life the way you dream it, is just like that puzzle box. With a puzzle, if you don't have a clear vivid picture of what you are putting together, the 25,000 pieces are nothing more than a big unmanageable pile of small pieces. Before you can even begin to create your exact dream life, you have to have a picture in your mind of what your exact dream life looks like, feels like, is like. You can’t have something if you can’t define it or identify it. You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want. You can’t get what you want by thinking about what you don’t want. You don’t dump the puzzle on the table and throw the box away and sit and group similar pieces together that seem to look alike but not know what you are creating. You can, but you will be there a lot longer.
So often, we expect to achieve and acquire and create our dream life with no clear vision or aim for what we want. We go through the motions and do what society has programmed us to do. We are conditioned that to get what we want in life we have to do certain things and live a certain way. Our lives become full of confusing circumstances and situations we didn’t expect, didn’t plan, couldn’t predict, and uncontrollable unmanageability consumes our lives. The picture of what we thought we wanted has been dumped in a big pile of mangled wishes, wants, desires, and dreams with no picture of our complete life.
We want a to feel safe and secure, we want to be proud of our accomplishments, we want to have the perfect lover in a perfect relationship, we want our kids and our families to have good relationships with us. We want the greatest job and we want to jump out of bed excited to do what we love. We want big houses, maids, fancy cars. We want, we want, we want. But, do we step out of our incomplete chaotic world and relax and imagine and dream and picture a clear and vivid image and place ourselves in that dream life and focus on what that life looks like? No. We get caught up in the economy, the argument with our spouse, the family member who just got sick, the car that needs tires, the kids who won’t eat dinner, the friend who got your promotion. The stresses of life and managing chaos is how we end up occupying our minds. We go to bed at night replaying our day in our heads, planning the organized chaos for the next day, putting together a big deal because we really need the money, play scenarios in our head, “will I get sued for the fender bender, I never have enough time, I wish I could relax, I want a new life,” and with worry on our minds. We have so much confusion our minds become overwhelmed with dealing with life and not living life. We don’t relax and focus on where we are headed because we are stuck in yesterdays problems, today’s issues, and tomorrows unpredictability. Unpredictability and uncontrollable circumstances will always exist in our lives but when we have a clear image and when we see the dream picture, our energy becomes so focused on the dream, the small things we deal with, that seemed to consume us and take our time, and take control of our lives, become manageable.
Manageability in a life that seems unmanageable is only perceived unmanageable because you can’t stop thinking about the unmanageability long enough to get manageability. You can’t be in a bad marriage and be miserable and expect to come home to a place of peace and happiness. If you desire peace and happiness you have to create in your mind what peace and happiness looks like and feels like. You have to define what you want in the relationship to create peace and happiness and commit to making it happen. You have to change it. You have to change the way you think. You have to create what you want with that person to have that dream relationship, and if you can’t, you have to recognize it and move on to get it, and know that it is there but not if you stay where you are. You can’t have it and want it if you can’t create it, recognize it, work toward fulfilling it and commit to having it. You can’t be miserable because your friend got your promotion and expect to be happy at work. You have to let go and know that there is a better job out there for you or maybe an even better promotion, that you don’t know about, will soon be available to you. You need to define what you want and use life’s circumstances to make your dream life picture more clear. Define your wants by knowing what you don’t want and then bridge the gap between the two with the most focused effort you can put into making it happen. And you won’t get what you want if you stay stuck in focusing on what you don’t want.
The quickest way to get from point A to point B with the least resistance is a straight line. Focus is the ability to get from where you are to where you want to be in a straight line, regardless of what obstacles are in the path. In order to get what you want you have to know what you want. Instead of letting your life take you where circumstances lead you, take control and lead your life and create your dream.
So, how do you go from living within the confines of the heap of 25,000 puzzle pieces that make up your current life and live your dream life pictured on the box? How do you get from point A chaos to point B your dream life? You have to first create the picture or 25,000 pieces dumped in a pile of jumbled confusion will never make sense. Create the picture by sorting out the pieces that make up your life now and creating the picture of your dream life. Take control of that pile and begin to separate it. Put all the border pieces in one spot and build the foundation, then put the pieces that look like pieces of your dream house together, and the pieces of your dream relationship together, your dream car pieces together. Whatever your mind can imagine and dream of wanting has its own place in that vivid snapshot of your perfect life and it is grouped into small focused sections of attainable completion and your dream life is born. That unmanageability is transformed into a plan that forces you to dissect and closely examine where you are and where you want to be.
This is designed to help you identify your life today and define where you are and how to become who you want to be, get what you want, and live your dream life.
First, point A, recognize that where you are has taken the path it has taken because of the decisions you have made, the way you were raised, your culture, the things you think, the things you have been taught, the things you have been told, the things you believe, the things you do, the way you react, your fears, your hurts, your insecurities, your accomplishments, your failures, the economy, government, the world around you, the society you live in, and all the life circumstances that make you, you. From all that, and within all that, it is easy to lose focus and get caught up on distractions that keep you from creating that dream picture.
You can’t say I want a better relationship and stay in a relationship you know you don’t want. You can’t say I want to make more money or have a better job and not look at the possibility of changing jobs. You can’t want it, want a dream life, and at the same time be thinking about a mixed up life or stay where you are in life and expect to get your dream life. If you’re thinking about what you don’t want you will get more of what you don’t want. So, first close examination and recognition of your dream life has to be determined or established or you won’t have a picture to guide you as you put together the pieces of your life that make up that dream.
Second, point B, recognize your dream. Create the picture of a complete, happy, free, safe, secure life filled with the unlimited rewards of your heart and your soul and the life you desire. Commit to it. Your dream relationship, that dream house, dream car, dream, dream, dream, imagine, imagine, imagine, feel, feel, feel and create.
And finally, connecting point A to point B, drawing that straight line to get you from point A to point B with focused intention, taking control of the life you have and recognize why you are at point A, and discovering ways of turning obstacles and challenges and situations into opportunities and accomplishments that get you to point B; transforming where you are into who you want to become, deciding what you want, identifying vibrational emotional energies, and actually focusing on what your dream life looks like, feels like, is like.
The Hamster Wheel
Ever feel like no matter what you do, no matter what decision you make, no matter what you say to your wife/husband, no mater what you bought for your kids, no mater what you did at work, you can’t do anything right.
Maybe you are a successful individual who has always outlines your dreams, focused on your wants, and have accomplished much of what you wanted to accomplish but now you have to manage so much creation you no longer have time to enjoy and appreciate life. Or perhaps you thought you knew what you wanted but once you got there you decided you are unhappy and don’t know what to do next. Circumstances present themselves in our lives that push us in directions we didn’t anticipate going in and unpredictability in situations in our life often carve a path we were not expecting. Many times, our feeling just change or our opinion may change, we may get more information on something that makes us want to go in the opposite direction of the direction we are on. You may be happy and just want to be happier or you may be miserable and depressed and exhausted and feel your life is passing you by. You may have suffered a traumatic experience that has left you emotionally shattered and not know how to recover from such distress.
Our ultimate goal and desire in life is feel full, rewarded, complete, safe, secure. We have needs that must be fulfilled to survive and wants that make us feel better and live more comfortable. We want to feel loved and accepted, and appreciated, complete and we are constantly searching for that next “feel good” feeling.
Relationships
When you think about your perfect relationship, you may already be in a relationship and want more or you may have had more and the flame has burned out, or you may have lost a relationship that you enjoyed and want another like it, you may have gone through a divorce, or you may be single.
Regardless of the situation or circumstances of where you are, you need to focus with deep thought and picture in your mind what that perfect dream life with that one special person should be like and feel like. You can only identify what a dream relationship should be like by looking at circumstances in your life that have made you decide what you don’t like or don’t want in your dream relationship. You observe other relationships, you look at your parents relationship, you look at the people in your life that you feel have good relationships and try to understand what they have or what they do that makes you want the same. This process of selecting preferences is the dividing line between where you are and where you want to be. You should not focusing on negatives here or assigning blame to past failures or getting caught up in emotions tied to bad circumstances. Those negative feelings keep you in a negative vibrational energy and you have to be on the positive vibrational energy side of the defining line or you can’t create positive results. Conscious selection of preferences and conscious comparisons of what you want and don’t want lead to conscious conclusions which lead to defining your wishes, wants, desires, and dreams.
When you meditate and quiet your mind and tap deep into your subconscious and focus on what your dream looks like you will clearly see your perfect special someone, that soul mate who accepts you, understands you, desires you, and completes you. They are honest, caring, giving, passionate, intimate, strong, successful, and inspiring. A leader whose only desire is to make every moment of your life wonderful. They conduct life and business with pride, dignity, and respect, and in a way that brings honor to your unity. They are moral and ethical and spiritual. Your bond is so tight to each other you can feel each others energy and read each others minds. When you are together you are happy, safe, secure, and feel free. You play together, laugh together, cry together, dream together, create together. When you touch it feels like you unite as one. When you kiss you breath each others breath and melt into passionate, intimate, animalistic realms of overwhelming desire. When you are apart if feels as though part of you is not there, missing, and you ache to be reunited. You feel more free and more rewarded than you ever have and you know it is that feeling, that dream coming true, and finding that one person, that will give you that whole complete feeling.
Now, as your mind is engulfed in that happy, content, secure, rewarding vibrational state, observe the emotional state of your being. Focus on that feeling. The feeling, the knowing, the hoping, the wishing, the wanting, the desires, and the deepness of your intensions are right there, you feel it, you feel wonderful and complete just like you will when that wish, want, desire, dream becomes a reality in your life.
Identify where you are, recognize what you want, focus your intentions on acquiring that dream, feel the energy achieving that dream brings you, hold the feeling, embrace the feeling, welcome the feeling, enjoy that deep rewarding accomplishment and believe that dream has already manifested in your life.
